Find Your Peeps

If you're a Fedora C., then there are other peeps who are Christian and single just like you. Find them. A good place to start is with a single's ministry group. Most church's have their own. If the group's leader is effective, they'll use ice-breakers and other social mixing tools to facilitate healthy dialog and appropriate interaction. The biggest benefit of regularly getting together with other single folks is that it helps to keep you from hibernating in a pity cave or burying yourself in your job.

In the group, you'll meet other women and men who are single for various reasons--never married, divorced, widowed. A word of caution: Don't assume everyone has a wholesome background or sincere motives. Use the same good judgment and common sense you would use in any other social setting. In other words, dispell your false sense of security because you happen to be socializing in a setting under the umbrella of the church.

Also, learn the 'ground rules' and stick to them. I once knew a Fedora C. who decided she didn't like the rules of the group she'd joined and set out to break them. For example, one of the guidelines of that particular church was 'no one-on-one dating' outside of the single's meeting time. Well, this woman began to ask the single men for dates until one man eventually bit the bait. When the news of what had happened got back to the group's leader, she was permanently banished from the group.

A word to the wise is sufficient.

That said, single ministres offer an opportunity for balance because, in addition to Bible studies, many singles ministries plan regular social activities like bowling, volleyball, picnics, movies, pizza parties, pot luck dinners, holiday parties, etc. Great times and lots of laughter will help you realize that being single again can be a lot of fun.